The benefits of relating to other people are not debatable, but when you start to spend a little time in solitude, you grow as a person and that will make you improve your personal relationships in different aspects of your life.
Loneliness is preferable before bad company. Remember this: a person who does not give you anything in your life will not help you feel fuller.
If you are a follower of the Secretos de la Vida channel, you have already heard in one of the videos this phrase: “only being well in nothingness will you be able to be well in the whole”. And, connecting with yourself and discovering what you really need in your life, you can have better social relationships and achieve full happiness. If you start to enjoy your moments of solitude, you will start to live amazing things.
Here are the keys to loneliness as a benefit to yourself and your personal relationships.
- RECOVER YOUR ENERGY
Many times when we are surrounded by people we spend a lot of energy. A little time alone allows you to recharge exhausted energy, so, it is very good for you to disconnect from time to time and make an emotional and mental break from the constant interaction with other people.
- REFLECTIONS BETTER AND MORE CONSTANTLY
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The chaotic rhythm of our current life seldom allows us to sit down, relax and reflect on life, or even make an introspection about ourselves. Being alone is the perfect opportunity to do a little reflection and focus only and exclusively on you, because in your solitude you discover what it means to be. Precisely for this reason, cultivating a healthy solitude (not isolation) allows you to reach the greatest discovery of the life of a human being: to discover oneself.
- SOLITUDE MAKES YOU CONNECT WITH YOUR OWN EMOTIONS
When you start to value your loneliness you tend to value your emotions better and you get to understand what really makes you happy, what causes you sadness, pain, what makes you angry, what makes you afraid …
With that knowledge it will be easier to regulate your emotions and the first step is to understand how you feel in each moment.
- YOU WILL BEGIN TO DO THINGS THAT YOU REALLY ENJOY
When you are constantly surrounded by people, especially a group, you always have to reach a consensus of what to do or what decisions to make and it is likely that what you really want will not come to pass. A very simple example is when you go on a trip with a group of friends. What more than once have you had long talks to reach an agreement on where to go or what to do in your destination?
Being alone gives you the freedom to decide for yourself and do what you really want to do to enjoy it to the fullest.
- YOUR PRODUCTIVITY INCREASES
Many times the company of other people produces distraction that can decrease your level of work. Being with other people is also beneficial for your self-esteem and your health but, at certain times, being alone you become more productive as you focus all your attention on what you are doing.
- YOU WILL ENJOY YOUR RELATIONSHIPS EVEN MORE
When you usually spend part of your time in solitude you also learn to value much more the moments you spend with other people, and that, will bring you greater joy.
The time you spend alone with yourself makes you value more as a person but also allows you to appreciate all the good things that are in relationships with other people. In the same way, you will learn to choose the friends you really want to have in your life and not end up sharing your time with people who do not contribute anything. True happiness is a balance between pleasant moments in the company of other people and your moments of solitude.
- YOU WILL GAIN INDEPENDENCE
Once you begin to consider that being alone is a nice thing and do not take it as something bad or even as a failure, you will feel more confident in yourself and in your ability to be without anyone; and obviously, you will be more independent in your day to day. There will come a time when you do not have that impetuous need to be accompanied by someone. The freer you want to be, the greater will have to be your resources to reach solitude and find yourself well in it.
- LEARN TO MAKE HAPPY TO YOURSELF AND NOT ALWAYS TO OTHERS
When you connect with your loneliness you learn to see and value the things that make you happy and you rest for moments of making others happy. Being alone you learn to give importance to every little thing that happens in your daily life as a concert of your favorite group, that movie that nobody wanted to see with you, a rural weekend away from the world … All these things have been designed so that Enjoy them and they can be moments of authentic happiness. And do you know the best? It is not necessary that there is anyone by your side so that you can enjoy it. You yourself create your happiness and your experiences in life and other people are not here to create your moments of happiness but to share them.
- YOUR CAPACITY TO MAKE BETTER DECISIONS INCREASES
You will stop looking for validation in your friends, family, couple before doing something. Asking for advice is not bad and in some cases it is necessary but, many times, we are completely capable of making our own decisions instead of looking for them in others.
When you start spending time with yourself, you learn to trust your intuition and make decisions that are right for you.
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